All that is Manly isn’t quite Wisely

All that is Manly isn’t quite Wisely.

Man is a man. A woman is just a woman. A vast majority of children, both boys and girls grow up amidst the sexual discrimination. Boys will be boys. Girls are girlish.

The boys strive for the more powerful man. The girls begin to contest the idea of men as superior. Most often the boys don’t know if men need to be gentlemanly. And the girls may begin to show what’s manly in them.

It’s a saga that diverts the attention from the very normal learning curve of the human growth. 

One hears often parents say very proudly, at least in the context of Indian families, that they brought up the girls as well as the boys. That they gave the girls the same opportunities. Oh come on! That in itself is a statement loaded with sexual discrimination. A genuine parent would let the child be - girl or the boy. They may educate them about the prevalent discrimination, how to be conscious about them, how to address them. Can they sow the seed of the difference and make all the efforts to be just and fair? The seed of manliness is cultivated by the attitude itself.

Growing up against the benchmark of the conceptual manhood in itself is derogatory to the human individual. Building boundaries that destroy the natural instinct to grown and evolve individually. 

Education is compromised. Behaviours are compromised. Disciplines are compromised. Personalities are compromised. The concept of manliness is such a curse on the humanity.

Eventually it may be too late for people to recognise how silly, stupid, even inhuman the strife for being the man is. More often it is too late to change the perspective in order to be just simple human beings. Yet the day one comes out of it, their path of self evolvement opens up. So what if it is too late in life?

It is not a social phenomenon in a less developed world. Even the most evolved societies may be fraught by the perceptual order of such a waste of human reserves.

Is it really such a challenge to recognise a being as an individual, irrespective of their sex? What if a boy is seen for what the boy is. And the girl for what she is. At least they would know they are an individual in a vast world. And they would be responsible only if they engage their energies in building the individual driven by their aspirations to be.

Perceiving the human, based on skills, talents, behaviours, outlook or responsiveness is not quite an uninspiring aspiration. 

If we respect humanity as the supreme, how does manliness come in between? 

Do we perceive humanity to be devoid of aspirations, imaginations, inspirations or ambitions? If it is humane to have aspirations, imaginations, inspirations or ambitions, how does being manly change its paradigm? 

Unless humanly is considered too soft for the worldly challenges. Isn’t manliness a facet of the  humanity? Do I conclude that manliness as a variance of humanity is not good enough to address the worldly challenges? If it is not, do we need bulls? Or wolves? Such a manly aspiration cannot get uglier. 

Preparing to face such a horribly deranged world, developing one’s skills, honing up our talents to resolve the inhuman world around in itself breeds inhumanity. Who is that man who built such an image of the world? Who is that man who has distracted people from building simple human skills to resolve simple human issues? 

Is it really a man’s doing? Or, the surreal image of men that has hounded men and women to be? Or is it a subconscious in the human mind to be the animal they grew out of?

If the women suffer because there is an overdose of manliness, its the men who kill themselves in being the man they are ought to be. 

It is often hilarious to see the men suffering from the manly ideologue. At work. At social get togethers. On the plane or the train. In general, on the streets. The supremacy felt by them makes them appear part of a zoo that has drained the free will out of their real human selves. 

It is not, however, as hilarious to see women display their concept of manliness. It is not hilarious because it is mostly a safety belt they wear assuming the malady of manliness being supreme. 

Godliness is a weakness often because it attempts to build another kind of safety belt against fears or apprehensions. Is manliness any different? 

Fears or apprehensions can be faced with skills, wisdom or cultivated talents. Walking around with the cloak, at least one of manliness is a laughing stock at best.